Why do people want to fall in love when it can have such a short run and be so painful?
Lately, with everything I hear around me, the fair question to ask is :
Why do people want to be in relationships?
A very long time ago, I didn't think there was more than one answer.
Today, at my age (still late 20's) and living in the Tinder era, I realize there are more people than I would've expected who want somebody :
just to fit the social environment or
because they're afraid of dying alone or
cause they grew up with parents who never really taught them to appreciate themselves as individuals and not as somebody's partner or
they were raised with the idea of having somebody by their side because that's what is expected of them.
Again - here I'm only referring to the people and stories I hear in my world.
Me - I don't remember growing up with an idea in particular.
Never been the type who daydreamed about her wedding or the perfect guy.
But when I became old enough for relationships, I had my own scenario of what I needed:
love that doesn't fade with time
passion
desire that comes from deep within, not from Victoria's Secret
(loads of ) sex til I'm really really old
all this and more gathered in a man
who would look forward to talking to me about everything,
who would never get bored in my presence
who would be willing to work through hard times not because he has to, but because he wants to
And here, ladies and gentleman, I just described every THEY LIVED HAPPILY EVER AFTER story.
I mean, come on...
How can we actually make this work when we have everything against us?
And when I say everything, I'm talking about...where should I start? I'm just gonna mention...
aging
In a perfect world we should stop aging at 33.
It's a good number: the body is in perfect shape (whatever that means for each and every one of us) and
mentally - we had enough time to go through several events that would shape us as individuals and fully developed characters
society
do you ever wonder who actually decides what rules we should live by?
what the perfect body should look like?
what the perfect relationship should mean?
why can't I make my own rules and be judged by nobody?
models or women/men who look like magazine models
Yeah, I said it!
How can I, a chocolate eating curvy girl who thinks that 10 minutes of riding a bike is enough exercising, compete with a chick who eats carrots all day, looks like a broomstick and whose priorities are clothes and makeup?
Yes, we all agree that I have a charming personality - when I'm not PMS-ing - and the things that really matter should always be above the superficial stuff.
sorry to burst the bubble, but, in the real world, we all know things are rarely (please appreciate the positive side of me) like that.
When he or she tells you: I don't really enjoy sex that much...that translates into:
I'd do it with anyone BUT you.
money
"I wanna be a writer and travel the world."
"I wanna be a rock star..."
"I want everybody to be healthy and travel the world."
"I wanna have my own business ..."
"I wanna own a restaurant or a coffee shop".
How many couples fight about money?
How many people stay in bad relationships because, on their own, they'd never make it?
Ok..there are still lots to say, but enough with the negative for a Friday :-D
I'm going to try get some sleep, but judging by the last few nights, my mind is going to wander again and tomorrow at work I will look as if I were auditioning for THE RETURN OF THE LIVING DEAD.
PS: hey KID
